Does real life interaction outweigh online interaction? If so, then by how much? How can we quantify the growth of a relationship, the growth of a love, in either case, and then compare the data? Is real life interaction really more significant than online interaction?
I'm not really sure. Technology has had a profound effect on the way humans communicate, and an equally drastic effect on the way we communicate privately. Email, Myspace and Facebook messaging/chat, PMs and DMs, text or SMS messaging, (dare I mention AOL Instant Messenger or, if you'll indulge me, SnapChat?) have all changed the way that we think about intimate communication. Conversations can last for seconds or for days. A story from my own experience:
When I was in high school, I went to a bakery/café with one of my friends, and her friend. Let's call them Eliza and Beth, respectively. I was meeting Beth for the first time that evening, and wanted to get to know her more and spend time with her individually, but I didn't want to make the situation uncomfortable or weird for any of us, so I didn't say anything. Until Eliza texted me under the table, "What do you think of Beth?" It probably looked more like, "wut do u think of Beht," but that's neither here nor there. I said that she was cool, or something high-school-me would say. And then she said something to the effect of, "You should invite her over later. I think she's into you." Which totally changed the situation. This all happened unbeknownst to Beth, right under her nose.
While that's not exactly a love story, it speaks volumes about the way technology can and does influence our romantic interactions. Granted, I never invited Beth over, never got to know her, and never hung out with her again, but I could have. And I realize, too, that I could have done those things without those texts. I could have asked her to step outside with me, or waited for Eliza to go to the bathroom or something. But texting made it quicker, easier, and more efficient.
Does the addition of technology somehow diminish the integrity of a blossoming relationship? I don't think I would identify love as an entity that necessitates efficiency, but neither would I claim that it rejects it. Says Brenna Ehrlich in her CNN.com article on the matter:
"Despite the current atmosphere of distrust, falling in love sight unseen, often through the written word, has been happening for centuries. The Web has only made it easier. Some experts say communicating online before meeting IRL (that's In Real Life) can actually foster strong relationships by helping those with similar interests come together over great distances. Potential lovers overlook superficial turnoffs, and people open up to each faster and more deeply."
I agree, but I'll admit that I still have a lot to learn.
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